Leadership: are you strong, or just a blowhard?

Published: 2010-12-06   There are 11 comments ... please add yours below

You can develop strength and effectiveness doing things so-called tough guys never do
not copying their angry or aggressive tactics that often exemplify fear rather than courage

Seth Godin has done it again. His blog about Demonstrating Strength* highlights 10 actions fearless leaders can take. Frightened ones present a façade of bravado and noise – but often this hides a deep fear someone might discover their weakness or mistakes. In contrast, courageous leaders are happy to be open and honest – about themselves and what’s happening around them. I particularly like Seth’s list as it includes actions that are part of my Leadership Action Planning approach. It’s hard not to like someone, who seems to agree with you – or am I being fearful there? Anyhow, how would your people rate you on Seth’s items in bold below – which I’ve extended with some further commentary?

  1. Apologise: As a CEO, I did this once when I realised a major change I’d been pushing was ill-founded. Happily, I discovered it was the change (not me) they hated – and we could then all move forward together. A lesson I’ve never forgotten.
  2. Defer to others: even as leaders, or particularly as leaders, we can learn from others – whether about technical, market or interpersonal stuff, as per my example above.
  3. Avoid short cuts: they erode operating standards – and culture. And in such areas, you (as leader) cast a big shadow. Your cut-corner may quickly initiate a damaging trend.
  4. Tell the truth: this again, is central to culture. If you’re not honest, it will spread like a disease through your team or organisation. The GFC gave us plenty of examples.
  5. Offer kindness: particularly to those, who need support. As a leader, you must take tough decisions, but there’s room (and need) for both fairness and compassion.
  6. Seek alliances: and this applies both within your organisation and also with suppliers and customers. A braided rope is always stronger than a single strand of similar size.
  7. Volunteer to take the short straw: strong leaders aren’t frightened to pick up the tough challenges – dealing with the irate client or tough regulator. It sets an example.
  8. Choose the long-term, sacrificing the short: this is critical to leadership. Deliveries must be made but the vision must still determine priorities and resource allocations.
  9. Demonstrate respect for all, not just the strong: otherwise, you’ve lost parts of your team – and possibly key inputs. Why should they commit, if you ignore them?
  10. Share credit and be public in your gratitude: saying “well done” and “thank-you” – both in private and in public – are undervalued elements of rewarding people.

Many so-called tough leaders would regard the above as nonsense; or, say they already do those things. From my experience, the first response is stupid and the second often a lie. If you want to be strong, it’s about strength of character; not about being brutal, cold or uncaring. As with fitness, it’s more about total health than bulging muscles.

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Comments (11)

Timothy Pascoe - date: 2010/12/14 02:24 pm


Dear Caroline,

Many thanks.

Sadly, as you indicate, common sense isn't as common as it should be!

Timothy

Caroline Sharpen - date: 2010/12/13 05:40 pm

A potshot with great resonnance. We assume this so much of this is common sense and common practice - but it's not. Thanks Timothy - thought provoking and relevant as always.

Timothy Pascoe - date: 2010/12/10 11:08 am


Dear Akash,

Thank you for your very kind comment.

VECTOR is still young. So, please tell friends and colleagues about it - both the weekly Potshots and our Leadership Action Planning Tool Kit.

Like any business, we need to be commercial. But, the weekly blog is free. I have also made our planning Tool Kit free for not-for-profits and students. I believe deeply in the power of effective leadership - and these two groups don't have much money to spare for such things.

Again, thank you.

Timothy

- date: 2010/12/10 10:59 am

Akash Dolas - date: 2010/12/07 10:17 pm

Timothy,

I always eagerly wait for your potshots every week.

Its like technology laden gadget, sometimes I wonder what you would write next.

But every potshot of yours surpasses the expectation of the past potshots.

So please keep them coming.

Kind Regards,
Akash

Timothy Pascoe - date: 2010/12/07 10:24 am


Dear Phadke,

Thanks for your comment. You raise an interesting topic: what legacy does the leader wish to leave. This can sound pretentious but most great leaders want to leave the world (or some part of it) better than they found it.

Sometimes that means that the value of their contribution will only be truly seen years after they die. For others, the recognition comes within their lifetime.

There is a question I have heard that leaders can ask themselves when contemplating an action impacting others: how would I like to read about this on the front page of the newspaper? Equally, taking up your point, one could ask: how would I feel about reading what I'm doing in my obituary?

Best wishes,

Timothy

Timothy Pascoe - date: 2010/12/07 10:14 am


Dear Marie,

Thanks for your kind comment - and, like Barbara, your experience evidences the opportunity for leaders to increase their leverage and impact.

I don't fault them in wishing to have influence, make a difference or even enjoy power for itself. However, without a sense of service and higher meaning as well, there is little likelihood people will be as motivated to follow them.

Timothy

Timothy Pascoe - date: 2010/12/07 10:10 am


Dear Barbara,

Thanks for your comment. My experience supports your point about many professionals being more mature techhically than emotionally - more IQ than EQ. This is particularly evident in areas like finance/accounting, legal, engineering, etc.

While, as you say, this can manifest itself in authoritarian behaviour, it can also for some people show up as unapproachability, isolation or unresponsiveness.

This IQ/EQ imbalance is by no means universal but is still an all too frequent occurrence.

Timothy

Marie Heraughty - date: 2010/12/06 11:27 pm

Excellent Potshot! Yes, there are many who would not endorse the views expressed but hopefully those who do will outnumber them and the world will be a better place as a result.

The views expressed would seem to counteract the behaviour of leaders more interested in power than in service so naturally it follows that an ethical and transformational character building process is required.

Keep these Potshots coming!

Phadke Subodhkumar Narayan - date: 2010/12/06 09:24 pm

Namaste sir,

What I liked most about above-mentioned article is your comments and observation. Your comments got solid substance and soul. I completely endorse & agree with your observation.

Many times leaders fail to implement various tested SOP's since many leaders (now-a-days) carry too many faces. In turn, the wither away in very short span.

Where as "leaders" are supposed to be remembered & praised when are alive and after death too.

And that is why today, we see less number of leaders who are praised & followed after their death.

Thank you so for sharing this article & above all your comments & observation.

I thank you for keeping me in your trust circle & email distribution list.

Sincerely,

Phadke

Barbara Cail - date: 2010/12/06 03:14 pm

Thank you for your Pot Shot regarding the 10 strong elements of leadership. I totally agree. I professionally mentor various people with various levels of leadership. Most own intellectual capabilities to fit their role but their emotions have been arrested at a much earlier stage. Until they do some "internal" work on their emotions i.e. their self image, to enable the emotions to meld with their intellect, the authoritative tone will sporadically emerge. And, as you have said, this is usually a mask for fear.


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